Wednesday, April 17, 2013

where do bombings come from?

simple. from in here.
How about Bombs?


let me illustrate. today i walked into a car dealership. i purposely didn't look at the three salespeople idly sitting around because i felt them staring at me. instead i eyeballed the large hunks of glossy metal-on-wheels scattered across the floors throughout the brightly windowed space.

even more than feeling their gaze i began to hear the thought bubbles emerging from their heads. "cute but i won't close a sale..."

then i had thought bubbles of my own. "stop staring at me like that". small flickers of disappointment and fatigue came up after each thought.

what's this got to do with bombs, you ask? keep reading

a minute later we were discussing one of the hunks of metal. every question i posed resulted in a more disgruntled look, every answer was increasingly snide. and in me, small flickers of anger arose, little sparks... each spark emerged, was witnessed and died out. until finally one caught me off guard. I didn't catch it in time. it was a fire. noticing it appear i excused myself. "thanks, i'll think about it. have a good night". and i left.

these little fires make the bombs go off. no lie.

It lights itself, notice it and it's extinguished
it's the same angry fire that caused yesterday's bombings in boston resulting in three deaths and dozens injured. but that's not all. yesterday the same fire also killed 13 and wounded 200 in iraq through car bombs. it killed 30 people at an afghani wedding via a US bombing. it claimed the lives of 25 people -- including children -- by government bombing in syria. and it killed 30 in somalia by islamist bombing.

sounds like common sense, doesn't it? anger causes violence? but we often fail to recognize two things:

1. it's not just a bomber / terrorist / lost soul's anger, it's the same anger in us.
2. it's really hard to extinguish because we subjectively feel that "our" anger is justified.

extinguishing the spark

so do we resign ourselves to suffer at the hands of fire, anger, violence?

the truth is that suffering is up to us to endure. as humans we have the ability to be consciously aware. with some practice (enter mindfulness) we can notice anger as soon as it has appeared in our mind. by doing this it's automatically disarmed and can't breed into action. it's like calling out a villain. at that moment, they stop dead in their tracks. they drop their weapons. they lose their power. the same goes for our anger. once we notice it or call it out, it too loses power.

no force

that's right, the process shouldn't include any force. to do so would mean suppressing the anger, and we all know what happens when a fire is suppressed. it explodes like a bomb. so we notice calmly and without force or manipulation. the impartial noticing is what has the power to extinguish the spark before it blows up.

so remember... next time you feel anger or outrage or righteousness coming on:

Watch your beliefs... they become your thoughts,
Watch your thoughts...they become your words,
Watch your words... they become your actions,
Watch your actions... they become your habits,
Watch your habits... they become your values,
Watch your values... they become your destiny.

and in the process of watching, if you notice a nice car for me to buy, drop me a line.

Saturday, March 16, 2013

Mindfulness Meditation Programs

Come Learn     (photo by Murad Osmann)

Introduction to Meditation

Do you find it hard to focus and concentrate for too long?
Do you want to sharpen your mind and feel more productive?
Would you like to be able to feel more peaceful?

This course might be just what you need. If you are new to meditation or would like to re-introduce a regular meditation practice into your life, this is the place to start.

This simple 6-session course takes you through focusing and concentration in a way that allows your mind to increase it's abilities on a daily basis. It also introduces you to mindfulness and how to take your meditation practice off the cushion so that you can create a balanced and beneficial meditation practice that's ideal for you.

In your Introduction to Meditation course you will:
  • Renew or develop a regular seated, walking and mindfulness meditation practice
  • Learn to practice meditation & mindfulness with the right balance
  • Develop a greater sense of well-being and openness in life
  • Know the mind and body in a new way
  • Learn how to make mindfulness part of your daily routine and your daily life
  • Live with greater day to day peace and understanding
  • Lay the foundation for lasting peace and freedom from pain and anxiety.
As a special bonus, I'm including Two Private 30 Minute Calls, and two simple Guided Meditation Downloads for you (a $125 value) to make your meditation practice as effective and smooth as possible.

If you are new to meditation or would like to renew your meditation practice, this course will help you develop healthy meditation and mindfulness habits.

Starts: April 27 (Six Weeks)
Format: via Skype.
Course fee: $197 for former students, $247 for new students.



Meditation for Wellness
Wellness? Hell, YES!

Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Have you seen doctors but still feel they haven't really seen you? 

Learn to boost your own health using the power of meditation. Strengthen your mind-body connection with this 6-part workshop to help you move from pain and illness into greater health and greater vitality.

Learn to:
  • create your roadmap to health 
  • practice loving kindness for the body
  • use the power of intention and visualization
  • listen to your body and understand what it's saying
  • merge meditation and movement
  • practice mindfulness to begin healing anytime and anyplace.
To maximize your investment in your health and well-being, I'm including one Private 30 Minute Call and a Distance Healing with Reiki Report (a $125 value).

Starts: April 27 (Six Weeks)
Format: via Skype.
Course fee: $197 for former students, $247 for new students.


True Mindfulness

Live Life as Mediation
Do you lead an active lifestyle and find yourself stressed and anxious?
Would you like to meditate but can't slow down or sit still?
Do you find it hard to quiet your mind?    Think you're thinking too much?

This invitation is for you 


Mindfulness is everywhere these days but is often misunderstood and mis-practiced. It is not about sitting still, focusing on breathing, pushing away thoughts, conducting body scans or repeating mantras. It's about bringing awareness into everyday life and tapping into a sense of peace no matter the situation or circumstance you find yourself in

Probably the best part of all is that this practice is embedded into everyday life and is geared for active minds and active lifestyles

In True Mindfulness, you will:

  • Practice the 3 secrets to mindfulness that most meditation teachers don't talk about 
  • Let go of unhealthy coping and lifestyle habits (I left behind coffee, alcohol, smoking, meat and shopping -- and feel lighter and freer than ever!)
  • Manage stress and pain effectively and naturally,
  • Be more present, engaged, productive and happily authentic in your everyday life, no matter what the situation or circumstance.

This program gives you:

  • Eight weekly sessions designed to take you, the beginner or seasoned meditator. through a life-changing journey,
  • "Mindful moments" -- short tips and inspiration sent straight to your inbox as regular mindfulness reminders between our sessions together
  • Two clear and easy-to-read mindfulness guidebooks and selected course readings
  • Short guided meditation audio downloads for your daily inspiration and practice that you can listen to at home or on-the-go.
Mindfulness is a very personal journey, so as a bonus, I am including two 30-minute private coaching sessions with me. During these sessions I will work personally with you to clearly identify challenges and support you to improve your practice and your life.

Geared to learners who have a hectic schedule or active lifestyle, the course is highly experiential and is taught by an experienced instructor live via Skype, so you can participate from wherever you are.

Details and how you can register

    True Mindfulness starts Monday, July 8th at 7:30pm and runs for 8 weeks.
    Register for only $297. Space in this programme is limited. Please reserve your spot now.  


    Namaste....




    Executive Mindfulness Meditation Instructor
    Siam Reiki Master Teacher

    Saturday, November 3, 2012

    7 Tips for Smoother, Smarter, more Soulful Travel

    you can lose yourself, even when you know where you are
    This past summer, for me, was four months of constantly moving around. Bay of Quinte. Toronto. Tampa. Toronto. San Francisco. Toronto. Montreal. Toronto. San Francisco. Toronto. San Francisco. Toronto. Bay of Quinte. Toronto. Beijing. Xi'an. Shanghai. Hong Kong. San Francisco and back to Toronto. I'm now grounded for the rest of the year.

    I help professionals and entrepreneurs manage their health, stress and energy through mindfulness, meditation, and self-healing; but you can imagine how so much moving around affects my own energy and how that affects my work.

    Travelling is a fun and mind-broadening activity but the joy of it quickly fades when you find yourself constantly packing and unpacking, going through endless security checks, living out of a bag while spending a great deal of time in airports, lounges, cabs and hotel rooms. It is also easy to forget your daily meditation or mindfulness practice and even easier to experience illness when you're constantly on the go.

    Over the years I've come to understand seven simple ways to save time, keep my energy and spirits up, protect myself against burn-out and make the most of my travels. Here they are;

    travel light - suitcases should be smaller than you

    1. Pack what you know. 


    Packing has always been my least favourite activity. While running the communications department of an African NGO a few years ago, I created a time-saving standard packing list. I still use this today, allowing for minor adjustments depending on destination. I roll, not fold. And I always try to keep to one bag (thanks to Doug Dyment at www.onebag.com). My advice: take your favourite clothes on the road with you. If you have something sitting in the closet that you never wear, keep it there or better yet, give it away. Making sure you are comfortable is the priority. When you're comfortable, people feel comfortable around you. Pretty simple right?

    2. Coordinate and consolidate. 


    I like to travel for work but always find time for pleasure when I'm away. I recently spent two weeks hopping around China with family and proceeded directly to a workshop in California, carrying only a small roll-on and purse. So, I needed everything to do double or triple-duty. That meant packing wrinkle-resistant, colour-coordinated gear that was easy to hand-wash, dried fast and could be layered. I also make sure I have a couple of nice big scarves to wrap around me on chilly flights, fold and use as neck or lower back supports and even transform into beach cover ups or sarongs.

    keep these things safe!

    3. Tech up. 


    Remember Murphy's Law? Make sure you have back-up plans. Remember your power converters; take that extra cable, and the spare drive with a copy of your files. The last thing you want to do is arrive to a work destination and be unprepared. Keep a backup of your ID by scanning and emailing yourself a copy of your passport, visa, driver's licence, health insurance, other important documents, bank account numbers and corresponding emergency telephone numbers. While you're at it, backup your phone. Last time I travelled, my iPhone plummeted to the bottom of an elevator shaft the day before I was coming home. It's a hassle replacing these things when you're away, and once you’ve done this, you won’t need to again for a while.

    4. Spread those wings before you fly. 

    don't try this in the airport - they may give away your ticket

    Airports and planes are designed to get the most people to a destination using the least amount of space, resources and tools. Some airports have begun to make a shift, though. San Francisco International Airport for example, now has a yoga room in the domestic departures lounge. It's small but does the trick - get a few stretches in if you can, especially if you're waiting for a long-haul flight. Some airports have quiet rooms or meditation rooms too. Even without these, you can usually find space for stretching, taking some revitalizing deep breaths or closing and sunning your eyes and face by those big windows at your gate. Instead of shopping, tweeting or firing up your tablet, waiting at your gate is a great time to meditate or practice mindfulness before take-off. There's enough noise and movement to observe your body and mind, and the stiff benches at your gate are perfect for sitting up straight, and just uncomfortable enough to help ward off sleepiness.


    wouldn't this be so nice?

    5. Make space in the sky. 


    Your movements are limited on the flight, so take care of yourself in the air. There's usually space near the kitchen or washrooms to go for a stretch. I've found that rather than getting stares from people, they were more likely to come by for a stretch too. Flying with recycled air is drying, so bring an empty travel bottle, fill it with hot or cold drinking water and a lemon wedge at the gate to keep hydrated throughout the flight.

    In your purse or travel bag, keep a set of ear buds, clean underwear and a t-shirt, a small notebook and pen, healthy snacks like carrots and fruit, and at least a one night’s stay worth of currency for each country you're travelling to. Who knows, you might be struck by a brilliant idea to jot down, run into delays, be stuck somewhere for hours or perhaps even overnight. If the inflight movie selection disappoints, you will thank yourself if you took the time to prepare a playlist of your favourite relaxing music, guided meditations or audiobooks to listen to, or brought along a timeless, inspirational read.

    I've even noticed the flight goes by faster when I practice mindfulness or close my eyes and meditate while in the plane. If I end up talking to the person sitting next to me, my interactions are so much more pleasant and sweet. Which brings me to...

    6. Talk to people. 


    Just a friendly hello to the person sitting next to you at the gate, on your flight or on the train can enrich your travel experience. I can't say how many times a stranger has made my day or given me amazing insights into life.

    Once on a Chennai-Mumbai flight I teared up with an excruciating earache while flying with a cold. The guy sitting next to me somehow fashioned a finger puppet out of his croissant in efforts to cheer me up. On a rather uncomfortable Paris-New York flight, the guy sitting next to me and I snuck away from our noisy section to the back of the plane and played charades and laughed for hours.

    On my way home from Amsterdam once, I sat next to a woman who was leaving her whole world behind to make a fresh start in Toronto. Additionally, she had a fear of flying and was clenching the armrest in panic. I read her Osho's Meditation for the Jet-Set during our take off. We still keep in touch today.

    no lie. i sat next to her on a red eye home.
    she slept faceplant style on her seat the entire flight

    7. Sleep. 


    If you are crossing time zones and need to sleep in order to stay fresh and alert on landing, do what you need to do. I set my internal clock to destination time when I board a plane. You can also bring a good bedtime tea with you. I love Clipper's organic Sleep Easy tea. You can check your local health food store for one containing valerian root.

    For mid-afternoon jet lag after arriving at your destination, I set an alarm for a 12-minute nap or practice intense deep breathing for 30 seconds, enough to freshen up for a few hours. Other things you can use are eye masks, smartphone "white noise" apps (crashing waves work wonders for me), earplugs and travel pillows.

    Practice the "shutdown" meditation: move your awareness from your feet up to your head, relaxing and releasing each part of the body as you go.

    Take it easy...

    view from my virgin atlantic flight
    to delhi.  relax and take it all in

    The last thing I can say is this: pace yourself. Don't travel to twelve places in four months and try and keep your regular workload. It's just too much to keep anyone healthy, grounded and mindful. This summer was an experiment on myself I won't need to repeat. By the end of it, I was exhausted, had a bad cold and came home needing a cocoon and silence, when I usually feel more calm, centered, recharged and revitalized.

    As Marcel Proust said: “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but seeing with new eyes.” So make your journey comfortable and stress free. No matter where you find yourself, your body, mind and spirit will soak up more richness from your travel experiences than you had imagined.

    Thursday, September 6, 2012

    "how did you do that?"

    sending healing through the atmosphere?

    i know, it sounds like fiction.

    the truth is that science will probably catch up in 300 years. until then, sorry. we can't bottle and sell it on shelves under a generic or commercial name. but it's real.

    if you asked me about this ten years ago i'd have laughed in your face. but i do it all the time now and it's become pretty natural - to me at least. to others, they still wonder. and still ask...

    so how does it work, exactly?

    the psychic healing? healing transmission? mechanism of action? automatic writing? the truth is that we don't know entirely. we know, maybe, but we can't explain it in scientific terms. metaphysics doesn't yet know. quantum physics doesn't yet know. look at masaru emoto and the hidden messages in water. we know there is intelligence in intention. and if we're smart we don't take it lightly or misuse it. in fact, reiki can only be used for the highest of good and healing. it's something i teach my level two students, and only after they have learned and begun to practice the basics of self-healing and primary healing for others.

    the appointment

    most distance healing is for people who are far away. asia, north america, south america, africa, europe. but sometimes it's a convenient option for busy people who live pretty close by, who really need a healing but can't get to an in-person appointment because of work or family.

    just like an in-person session, we book an hour-long appointment. but it's not over the phone. at our appointment start time, the recipient sits or lies down in a quiet place without distractions. that means turn off music, turn off the computer, the ringer, buzzer, beeper, close the door. and i do the same.

    although this is not a requirement, it's important for two reasons:

    first - if someone is committing to their healing then spending the time and effort towards it means they are energetically "showing up", and being an equal partner in their healing. i can't stress enough the importance of this.
    second - and this is mainly to show them how sensitive they are - they are far are more likely to feel the effects of the treatment if they're still and not engaged in other activities.

    science fiction can be prediction
    the secrets of the hour

    so here's how it goes. i myself come to stillness. for distance reiki to work i only need to know the name of the person and their geographic location. like i said, it sounds like fiction but it's real. science can't explain it yet, but if it works (and it does), why wait for science to catch up?

    using a surrogate or a model (i use a pillow or a doll), initiate the treatment. first is a chakra assessment - a scan through the recipient's major energy centres to locate areas of trapped negative energy. then the treatment. exactly like an in-person treatment, only using the surrogate as a stand-in for the recipient.

    i go into a meditative state as i do the treatment. one hand is on the 'body'; the other hand is typing. there's no force. information comes through and the report writes itself, automatically - what's being felt, what it means, where and it comes from, who it relates to and when it began.... basically whatever the recipient needs to know to heal from whatever wounds brought them to me. while the information is being recorded, reiki is being sent. it's like a closed circuit - the information comes through one hand, is recorded through the other hand and then....

    i hit 'send'

    after the treatment, i email what i've typed as a confidential report to the recipient.

    and then crickets. it's usually quiet for a couple of days after this. i mostly forget about it. and then i get an email or a call that goes something like this: "that treatment was amazing. i could feel my hands / feet / head tingling! i saw colours. i felt a presence. i felt really light. and what you wrote to me - it was so... accuratehow did you know? how did you do that?"

    ...well, now you know.

    Salima Pirani is a Siam Reiki Master Teacher and offers distance Reiki to help people 
    release trapped pain and suffering, whether it's physical, emotional or spiritual in origin. 
    If you wish to discuss how to bring healing into your life, you can contact Salima here.

    Friday, May 18, 2012

    bruce lee: using no way as way

    no formula: bruce lee's freedom fighting
    we all get hurt. we get kicked in the ass. we fall down.

    even bruce lee

    sometimes it's best not to get up right away, but to understand what happened and what you are to learn from it... for bruce lee, that meant rest and expanding his mind. while recovering from a serious back injury, lee turned to buddha, alan watts, jiddu krishnamurthi and others for inspiration.

    it was krishnamurthi's words that struck him: "you have to be a light to yourself".

    recovery

    bouncing back from his injury stronger than ever, lee adopted a new stance. rather than developing his superlative method, he rejected all methods, styles, or doctrines and instead approached his martial artistry with a boundless enthusiasm that encouraged a total freedom to act and react.

    no way. no limitation.

    the answer is to simply to know oneself, one's own gifts, weaknesses and power and to act in the present moment with total awareness.

    in meditation, this concept is evident when you move away from focused or concentrative pursuits, such as intently focusing using a given technique: repeating a mantra, breathing in a certain way or focusing on one particular object to the exclusion of everything else. when you reject technique you loosen control and witness what arises in the present moment, attentively and inwardly. this letting go of control and witnessing is what we call mindfulness.

    "using no way as way, having no limitation as limitation". 
                                                                         - bruce lee

    Wednesday, April 25, 2012

    reiki: use it or lose it (well... sort of)


    i'm looking forward to hosting my april reiki share tonight... 

    this is a monthly social and healing gathering where reiki healers interact and swap treatments. i give suggestions, answer questions and help healers feel the energy coming through, interpret how it wants to work and what that means for the specific healing situation.

    why share reiki?

    i was a bit of a 'reiki slut' when i first trained - i'd meet someone and next thing i knew i was giving them a treatment. i'd dart out of the office to give treatments every night. practising on strangers was great - i knew nothing about them so i didn't feel limited by shyness or fear of what they would think.

    most healers don't do this. and so a big challenge after learning reiki is the lack of opportunity to practice on diverse people. without practice, it's hard to gain the self-confidence you need as a healer. this is where practical hands-on experience comes in, to move beyond self-doubt.

    with practice, doubt dissipates. you start to feel more natural about identifying or interpreting blockages and warnings, developing bedside manner and communicating or relaying root causes of symptoms that are felt during a treatment.

    amazingly, the more you practice and develop focus and intention, the more reiki is available to you. you become expert at grounding, protection, cleansing and intuition. it is subtle and yet powerful - it requires time to sense and identify what the energy means to each healer.

    so developing your circle of reiki healers is important as we often need to discuss challenges, share approaches, practice and hone skills, and remind each other to practice.

    as a teacher, it's an amazing opportunity to share in the development of students and help them break free of self-doubt and rigidity, as well as hone their sense of trust and intuition. 

    and tonight...

    my intention for tonight's coaching is to "pull out all the stops", which quite literally means to pull out all the limits, the barriers and stop signs pinning us down and to let go!!   or as we say in our circles... let the reiki flow.

    Friday, April 6, 2012

    making your full moon wish

    make a wish and send it out...
    image: double dandelions by dennis vebert
    as far back as i can remember i'd duck and hide on the full moon. something odd would always seem to happen...

    one time my car window was smashed in, parked right in front of my apartment window. for apparently no reason, nothing was stolen...

    another time, someone dropped their phone on the sidewalk and when i went to pick it up my vintage dress suddenly ripped open all down the back...


    even as a teenager, i nearly sliced my finger off in class once and while the instructor was talking to me i fainted standing up...

    people would always say "full moon"... let's just say it got my attention. i'd cringe at it looming on the calendar. but recently i took some time to study the cycles of the moon and here's what i found.

    opposition

    for centuries, many calendars, festivals and events were set by the lunar cycle. farmers would plant and harvest based on the movements of the moon. the full moon is the brightest and most luminous part of the cycle because at that point the sun and moon are in opposition. this positioning across from each other on either side of planet earth elicits special behaviours...

    animals become more active. ocean waves and tides get more violent. humans act up. paramedics know it. prison officers know it. emergency room staff know it. remember the riots in vancouver after they lost to boston? toronto's transformation from a clean, decent city to mass chaos during a the G20 summit? full moons. i wished governments knew it.  

    if we are all energy, then we are all connected energetically. and if energy intensifies at the full moon, no wonder we experience intense emotions, express ourselves more intensely and encounter intense situations. we feel each other's energy more intensely. but this is not always a bad thing.

    making the most of full moonery

    if we think in terms of the intensity of a full moon, we can consciously choose to be at our intensely best at the full moon. we could be our most intensely inspirational. our most intensely influential. our most intensely genuine, our most intensely vital, intensely creative.

    so instead of ducking for cover during the full moon, here's what i suggest.

    • take a moment. take a deep breath. step into your true integrity, your true self. 
    • create a vision of something simple you want. in other words, make a wish. a great one, for you and for everyone around you. 
    • breathe and meditate on it, filling it in with details. allow your vision to intensify and get energized. 
    • imagine the vision taking place now, in reality. allow yourself to feel it in every cell of your body.
    • release the vision after a few minutes allowing it to float out through the breath. release your ownership of it. 

    now, instead of looking at the calendar and getting anxious, i feel more optimistic. i've even built a whole manifestation meditation program around the lunar cycle, with each position of the moon a reminder of the next step in the process, which culminates around the full moon.

    so take a moment and create that vision for what you want in your life. may your full moon wishes come true.